Posts tagged international adoption
How To Honor Your Child’s Story From An Adult Adoptee

I want to encourage my children to stand strong in who they are, where they’re from, how we’ve been woven together, and to understand that the fabric of who they are would not be possible without the gifts passed down from their birth families. I also encourage them to trust that they can come to me and openly express the challenges and the triumphs of this shared family experience, to feel that their birth families are represented and woven into this quilt.

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I Am Thankful to Have Been Adopted

My name is Sarah and my two brothers and I were adopted from Bolivia when we were babies.  We noticed right away we were all very different; our older brother is of Inca descent, my twin and I are a mix of Spanish and Bolivian descent, and our fair, blue eyed adoptive parents were Canadian and American. Now throw in the fact that we lived in the multicultural area of McAllen, Texas and you have the recipe for a lot of confusion. 

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What it's like being trans-racially adopted

My adoption was never a secret.

When I was one year old my parents adopted me from the Jiangxi Province in China. Growing up, my parents constantly reassured me that my biological parents wanted me but were unable to keep me. At the time, China had a one-child policy, so most families kept the son because he passes down the family name and takes care of the parents once they grew older. 

However, I still don't know if that's the real reason why I was adopted, because the orphanage I was in didn't know anything about my biological parents. A few years ago, I figured out the only thing they knew about my life pre-orphanage was that they found me on the front steps of a power plant. 

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International Adoption: RED FLAGS!

The statement that we have made over and over again throughout our journey is that just because something looks right, doesn’t mean it is right. Red flag after red flag, our family’s perfect international adoption seemed to be crumbling before our eyes. We should have seen the writing on the wall. “Our daughter” is not an orphan, and out of ignorance we nearly molded her into one.

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Is Adoption Really for You?

Sometimes I believe ignorance can manifests itself into a form of hope that drives humans to do hard things. It’s when the road gets hard that our hope is broken and our ignorance becomes humble wisdom and we are left with 2 choices: Continue down the path we’ve chosen or follow our desire for comfort and peace and ultimately quit.

Adoption is more often than not, the harder path to chose. It can be uncomfortable, painful, and etch away at every part of your being.

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Unintended Consequences: Why International Adoption Is Not the Answer to the Orphan Crisis 

This is where taking a “let’s just adopt all the children currently living in orphanages” approach to solving the orphan crisis becomes deeply and systematically complicated. There are many unintended consequences to this approach, which negatively impact the international adoption process as a whole. More than that though, it can negatively affect children and families.

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