It is a tragedy that there are children in our nation sleeping in office buildings because they do not have a safe home to rest their heads. It is a tragedy that so many children do not know the loving touch of a mother or father. And it is a tragedy that not more people are stepping up to care for our nation's most vulnerable children. But there is hope!
Below you will find real stories, testimonies if you will, of real people somehow involved in the U.S. Foster Care System. We believe sharing real stories is the number one way to inspire others into action and we have seen the stories below inspire people to love and serve foster children. We want to see the number of children (currently somewhere around 415,000) in our country's system vanish! However, the only way we can wipe out the foster crisis is if we have more educated people getting involved in foster children's lives. How do you move people to action? You tell a story. So please share these stories and podcasts with everyone you know. Together we can end this tragedy.
52% male, 48% female · 39% 5 YEARS OR YOUNGER. 45% 6 – 15 YEARS · 16% 16 – 20 YEARS
Fear is a powerful force.
For most of us, fear has shaped many of the decisions that have led to who we are today. Fear can be good and can keep us from harm. Fear can also be bad when it paralyzes us from doing what we know needs to be done. Many times these fears are unfounded, but we never take the chance to find out. So what do we do? How do we move on to become educated on a subject that elicits fear?
When it comes to foster care, the list of fears can be long. "Will they hurt me or my children?" "What if I get attached, and then the child goes back to their biological family?" "What if their birth parents hurt them or us?" "What if the child has some undiagnosed special needs or learning disabilities?" The list goes on and on... but one question lingers: Are these fears true? The answer is somewhere in the middle. Yes, these are real fears to consider, sometimes they happen, BUT they are by no means what is normal.
We have seen in foster care that these fears are often used as an excuse to not get involved. People often hear an extreme story third-hand from the friend of a friend. If you have never researched foster care then I would challenge you to resist latching onto horror stories heard through the grapevine. Look into foster care, children of trauma, and the resources available for foster families!
We know there are hard stories. We are dealing with children who have experienced trauma. But every adult we've interviewed who is actively involved in the foster care system wouldn’t go back if they had the choice... regardless of if they have had a difficult experience or not.
Not every person should adopt or be a foster parent. It is not the right choice for everyone, but there are other ways to get involved. Perhaps your friend or neighbor opens their home to a foster child - you can take the classes with them, or become an official respite care provider. What would it look like if people entered the foster system as a community rather than alone?
There are an estimated 319 million adults in America, and there are 415 thousand children in foster care. That means if 0.1% (that says point one, as in less than one percent) of adults in America chose to foster, and another 0.1% rallied behind them to support them, then there wouldn't be any more American children in foster care.
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If those who had the slightest bit of interest in fostering asked three of their best friends to walk with them through the process, then they would have support from those three friends when they needed a break and things got hard. That simple step would help prevent kids from moving home to home, and provide a supportive and educated community around foster families.
Fear is a powerful force, it must be respected and battled at the same time. If we are going to fight, shouldn't we wage war for the most vulnerable children in our country? Let's battle together as a community and start eliminating the stereotypes, misinformation, and excuses. Dale Carnegie said, “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
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The following numbers are based on external site's and their data. All numbers below are estimates and taken from the most recent year known. To find out more information about fostering or getting involved in foster care in your state, please click below.
(Each number was taken from the site the square is linked. These numbers are hard to find, sometimes years old and estimated.)