Loving With Purpose
Loving with intent is my purpose in life.
Fostering children, on my own, became a passion of mine when I was in my early 20’s. I had been in a long-term relationship that I had poured my heart into, and it all come crashing down. When I lost my relationship, I lost who I was. I'd forgotten my morals and values and I was broken and hurt. After my relationship ended I knew it was time to start loving the right people. I have a very strong passion to love children, to love them with all my being, to shelter and to protect them.
My name is Alexis, I’m 25 years old and I’m a proud foster mama! As a child, I was honored to be a sibling to many foster children that came in and out of our home. Growing up I loved children and always wanted to have a younger sibling. Fast-forward 13 years, and I am happy to say, that I have five adopted sisters and I’m a single foster parent!
After figuring out who I was and the things that I had lost during my relationship, my love for foster care became my greatest passion. I had started taking classes, doing background checks and getting my finger prints, and slowly, I introduced the idea of foster care to my friends and family. My mom knew the heartbreak of foster care and didn’t want me to foster. She said she'd be supportive of me if I did, but she was very hesitant. I started this journey when I was 23 and received my first placement shortly after my 25th birthday. It was the best gift I could have possibly been given, the gift of loving intentionally.
If it wasn’t for the dark place I had been in during my previous relationship, I don’t know if I’d still have this same passion for loving children and people as intentionally as I try to. Foster care is a heartbreaking journey. No matter the outcome it is all a beautiful tragedy. When you receive a child you’re so excited to be able to shower this baby with love, but at the same time, you’re sad that the biological family doesn’t get to experience this. My advice for future foster parents is to love with all your might, stay strong to who you are, and be flexible. Foster care is a hard journey and having support from friends and family will be essential.
Foster care is an integral part of our communities and lives! We need to normalize foster care. These children are put in very unfortunate circumstances, but that doesn’t mean anything is wrong with them. They deserve to be loved just the same as any other child brought into this world, and we must do our best to love them well.
Many people think I’m crazy for wanting to spend my early 20’s parenting children that aren’t my own, but to me this is what I was created to do. This is who I am and I couldn’t imagine doing anything else.