Adult Adoptee Says: There Is Grace...

My name is Riley and I was adopted out of the foster care system when I was 10 years old. 

We believe that adoption is something to be celebrated and not hidden. Therefore my parents were always very truthful with me about anything I asked.

Even though I was adopted as a 10 year old, I don’t really remember meeting my parents. However, I do remember that I was 9 years old when I last saw my birth mom…and even younger when I last saw my birth dad. He was never in the picture…well not until he had to sign over parental rights. If I had the chance to talk with my birth parents, I honestly wouldn’t have anything to say. They gave birth to me, but they are not my parents… I love being adopted

I was never picked on for being adopted. Most people who don't know that I'm adopted would never guess because I actually look just like my adopted family. I always tell people that I have a birth mother but she is not my Mom. My mom is the one who points me to Jesus, the one who was there for the broken hearts, the one I fought with in high school, and now the one my children call grandma and one of my best friends!

I want to share my view on adoption so that others would know that adoption can be normal and that it’s good to talk about openly. There is grace and love in every story…Even in the hard times that take years.  

Currently my husband and I are expecting our second little boy and in a few years, once I finish my nursing degree, we will foster to adopt! 

My advice, as an adult adoptee, to anyone out there considering adoption would be: It's hard but worth it!

~Riley

To follow along with Riley, you can find her on Instagram here: @Rileykcabe